Have you ever heard couples making these statements in their arguments like: “When will you ever..?” The bottom-line statement to our spouses when we make these claims is: “YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH!” How many of us at some point in our lives, we have to struggle with this statement of accusation? Today, in my blog, I would like to address this issue and how we can avoid putting people down just because of our own flaws and limitations. This design was created to spur people to talk about this topic and hopefully give some helpful pointers to address it.
Who is PICTURE-PERFECT?
What do you mean by picture-perfect? Well, according to the definition from Merriam Webster, it states that picture perfect means completely flawless. So, learning the definition and now looking at the question : ” Who is picture-perfect?” I suppose the answer is No One. We can wish, or hope or think.. we are flawless, but the reality is no one is flawless. We all come with a set of strengths, and weaknesses. Some may be perceived as having more strengths than weaknesses, and vice visa. In reality we do make comparisons. Sometimes because of our preconceived perceptions, we misjudge others. It is possible for us to project our expectations upon others not realizing that the expectations are unrealistic to begin with. When we are asked: ” When will you ever become picture-perfect?? ” One truth we have to go away with is this, no one is completely flawless.
Our Wedding Vows
When we’ve said our vows to each other in marriage, in truth we are saying : ” I love you for who you are. ” & ” I will love you no matter what happens even unto death. ” Wait a minute.. ” Really.. did I make that vow? ” ” Oh gush, I don’t remember. ” Yes, we all say those vows in church weddings, even in the courthouses. These are not words that sound good. These are our vows, or promises we’ve made to each other before our families and friends and most of all, before our Almighty God.
Did we vow to be perfect for each other? If we are aiming to be perfect one day, then we are heading the wrong direction. In reality, no one is completely flawless. However, if we are talking about giving our best to one another, being the best for each other, caring for one another in love, building the best communication system to help each other grow in all aspects of life, these are some guides to help build strong and healthy families and relationships. A good guide to keep in mind is this: Whatever you do, think about how you can give your best to your spouse, to build him/her up. To encourage and not to tear each other down. Think about what is good, then give it to your spouse. One final thought on this: Put your spouse first before your wants and needs. Then attends to the needs of your children. The reason is simple. If we set good example to our children how to treat one another, our children will learn and follow. If we mistreat our spouses, our children will learn to mistreat their future spouses and the history continues.
The next time some one you love ask you this question: ” When will you ever..? ” Ask them in return: ” Will you still love me even though I can never be the “perfect person” you’ve envisioned me to be? ” “Because even when you are not the perfect person I’ve envisioned you to be, I still love you and respect you for who you are.”
The bible says that there is none perfect other than Jesus. In Romans 3:23, it says: “ For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. “ That is why we need Jesus. The Bible says in Matthew 7:7 “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” We can ask Jesus for strength and courage to love and care for our families. I pray that this blog will become a blessing to you and your families. Have an awesome week, everyone. God bless!
From Ours to Yours,