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Love Unites & Transforms!

Love unites & transforms!Do you know?

The month of February is all about love. I started pondering on the subject of love and the impact of it on our families and cities. I began to question what love is able to do and 2 words came into my mind. They are “UNITE” and “TRANSFORM”. And I thought: “That is interesting!” Not long after,  the design “Love unites and transforms” was created. In blogging about this design, I hope to discuss in greater depth some questions you may have and possible answers for them.  Well, naturally, the next question would be “How does love achieve that?” Let us begin, shall we?

Love Unites

When we say love unites, what does it mean? How does love achieve that? To understand all that, we need to understand the definitions. I shall attempt to give you a definition of the word love. In one of my previous blogs, according to the Bible, in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8,  it says:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trust, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”

Love is basically not seek-focused. Rather putting another before one’s needs or wants. Now, looking at the definition of the word unite, I discovered an interesting term. According to an online dictionary, it reveals the word unite as:

Unite 1

Definition: To put together so as to make one; to join, as two or more constituents, to form a whole; to combine; to connect; to join; to cause to adhere; as, to unite bricks by mortar; to unite iron bars by welding; to unite two armies.

Unite 2

Definition: Hence, to join by a legal or moral bond, as families by marriage, nations by treaty, men by opinions; to join in interest, affection, fellowship, or the like; to cause to agree; to harmonize; to associate; to attach.

The term “connect” caught my eyes. We need two people to connect. When two people connect, there is communication. For communication to be at its peak, the speaker and the listener, need to understand and use the same language. Love is a language in which we communicate. If we express ourselves in love, because of the nature of love, we are able to connect to another. Often love brings two people together. In more ways, love tends to unite people because it is not self-seeking. I can therefore safely conclude that love does truly unite.

Love transforms

Now, how does love transform? How can love achieve that? As I searched for the definition of transformation, I discovered something interesting. Here is the definition:

1. To change markedly the appearance or form of:

2. To change the nature, function, or condition of; convert. See Synonyms at convert.

To transform, it means to alter, not just a minor change but an explosive change. It means a great deal to me knowing love is able to create such a huge impact and yet we don’t seem to grasp the truth of its capacity. Truly, how does love achieve that? One of the attributes of love mentioned in the Bible says: Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Love disapproves all acts of evil. It embraces the truth. According to John 8:32, it says:

Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.

You may ask: Free from what? Well, the truth will set you free from what holds you in bondage. Could it be living in a life of lies, the compulsion to pursue after properties you cannot afford, compulsion to feed your unhealthy habits, addictions to substances, all of which can very well destroy your relationships with the ones you love? When one lives in truth, one lives truly free. And that is what love is able to accomplish in you. Love always protects, always trust, always hopes, always perseveres. Love does nothing to cause your love ones harm, always seeking what is good for the ones you love. If we can achieve all that love does, wouldn’t we be changed inside out?  Wouldn’t love transform our families? If we can truly love our neighbors and our communities, wouldn’t  our cities be transformed? What about our nation?

God is love!

Finally, I would like to conclude that the Bible says in 1 John 4:8: “Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” Is it true to say that our society today, in the state as it is, is because we do not know God? Have we misplaced Him somewhere? Shouldn’t we get back to the truth, because the truth will set you free? Something for you to ponder on today.. think about it. God bless you!

From Ours to Yours,

Eileen

Love, Peace, Joy & Hope Are The Language Of A Healthy Family.

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Have you ever asked: What makes this family work?” “What is that special formula they have that we don’t?” “Why is keeping my family together so difficult?” “Why do I even try any more?” If you examine these questions, you will notice that in all of these, there is a lack of all the components mentioned. Can you therefore see the importance of having and speaking love, peace, joy and hope in your family? This is exactly what I am going to touch on in this article today.

Love

What is love? Why is love important? As a christian, I would like to share a Bible passage with you.

 

1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 says:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trust, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”

Do you know how difficult it is for many of us to even do one of those which are mentioned about love? We can easily fail on any one aspect of love, do you agree with me? That is how powerful love is! Love is not simply about saying: ” I love you!” to your spouses and children and then just walk away thinking that is it. As you can see, from above, there is more to be demanded from us. Love is a commitment we give to our families to do all we can purely for their well-being. Can we honestly say that we have done all we could to love them?

When we know that we are loved, we have the confidence to face the challenges in our lives. Our children feel secure and protected. They see what is good and emulate it. They carry healthy perspectives through their lives because of what they see. Love is all about what we do, not simply what we say. Let us speak and show love to our families because we are their hope to a better and healthy future.

Peace

What is peace? Why is peace important? When a family is constantly fighting and arguing, there is no peace in that family, right? According to the wikipedia’s definition of peace:

“It describes a society or a relationship that is operating harmoniously and without violent conflict. Peace is commonly understood as the absence of hostility, or the existence of healthy or newly healed interpersonal or international relationships, safety in matters of social or economic welfare, the acknowledgment of equality and fairness in political relationships.”

How can peace exist if there are constant fights between parents and siblings? Peace is the result of a loving family, don’t you think? The Bible talks about peace as well. The peace that comes not from man, but of God which is beyond our human understanding. Peace brings harmony and balance to our families. We need to seek not only love but also peace within our families.

Joy And Hope

As the saying goes: Where there is peace, there is joy! Joy and hope are the natural outcome of what we have invested in our families. If we sow love and peace, we reap joy and hope! We need to make a decision to act accordingly with love and maintain peace within our families if we truly want to build healthy and stable families. To end these wars, we also need to break that cycle of negativity in our families. We can make that difference!

EHOP Designs has a dream to see families live in love and peace experiencing joy and hope because they deserve it. We need to learn to speak the language of a healthy family if we have that desire to reverse the present trend that our families are heading, a high divorce rate. We do need to stop this downward spiral path of destruction. Don’t let your family become another number on the records of divorce statistics. Fight it because your family is important to you!

From Ours to Yours,

Eileen

 

A Legacy Of Love Or Destruction?

 

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Food For Thought

One of my favorite designs from EHOP on a throw pillow has a question: “What would you leave behind for your children..” follows by: “A legacy of love or destruction?” Interestingly, this question has 2 parts to it. One attempts to examine on material inheritance, while the other, attempts to examine on abstract concepts but nonetheless real.

An article (Science Daily) 2007, reports that the life expectancy of an American reaches 78 years of age. For simplicity sake, if an average person gets married and sets up his/her family at the age of 28-30 years, an average person has about 48-50 years of influence in the lives of his/her children. Looking at these figures, if one marries before the age of 28, and is blessed with a family earlier, one has more years of influence. Now knowing that, what do we do with these 50 years we have with our children? What have we imparted into their lives thus far? Isn’t it scary, just thinking about this? This is exactly what I’m attempting to remind ourselves today..

A Wake Up Call

If we begin to realize the seriousness of our roles as parents, this question: “What would you leave behind for your children.. A legacy of love or destruction? is a good question to ask. If we spend 50 years imparting destructive behaviors to our children, then, our children grow up imparting such behaviors to their children and it goes on from generation to generation. But, if we do otherwise, teaching our children good moral principles in life, their lives would turn out different. Do we want our children to be good, positive contributors to our society?

There is a close co-relation between the upbringing of individuals and their future. Many criminals come from broken families. According to The Morning Call, the article states that 70% of criminals are from broken homes. I hope this article will become a wake up call for many families not just for United States, but worldwide. We need to think twice, three times or even more, in regards to divorcing our spouses. For whatever reasons we may have in supporting divorce, we need to know what impact our decision would have on our children.

Seek Solutions Not Destruction

If we live in an environment unhealthy for our families, then we need to leave that environment. We need to seek what’s best for our families. If our spouses are trapped in unhealthy habits, we need solutions not abandonment. If there is a lack of communication between spouses, seek a bridge to build the communication not adultery. If there is no more love between spouses, seek ways to re-kindle that love, instead of ending it through a divorce. Ultimately, let us learn to find solutions instead of destruction. In the heart of a family is love. If whatever we pursue is led by love, then we know for sure we are bounded by protection and security. If we seek to love and respect our spouses, we teach our children love by our examples. If we seek to disrespect and hurt our spouses, we teach our children destruction by our examples. If we want leave a legacy of love for our children, we need to first begin treating our spouses rightly so. Otherwise, what we leave behind is a path of destruction and there is no hope for our children to be good, positive contributors to our society. At worst, we are investing our time creating future criminals for our society. Isn’t it scary?

Challenge

We can leave behind wealth and fortune for our children. That’s great! But, wouldn’t it be even more awesome if we leave a legacy of love that they can enjoy with their children, nurtured in hope, joy and peace? Think about this!

 

From Ours to Yours,

Eileen