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When Will You Ever Become Picture-Perfect??

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Have you ever heard couples making these statements in their arguments like:  “When will you ever..?” The bottom-line statement to our spouses when we make these claims is:  “YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH!” How many of us at some point in our lives, we have to struggle with this statement of accusation? Today, in my blog, I would like to address this issue and how we can avoid putting people down just because of our own flaws and limitations. This design was created to spur people to talk about this topic and hopefully give some helpful pointers  to address it.

Who is PICTURE-PERFECT?

What do you mean by picture-perfect? Well, according to the definition from Merriam Webster,  it states that picture perfect means completely flawless. So, learning the definition and now looking at the question : ” Who is picture-perfect?” I suppose the answer is No One. We can wish, or hope or think.. we are flawless, but the reality is no one is flawless. We all come with a set of strengths, and weaknesses. Some may be perceived as having more strengths than weaknesses, and vice visa. In reality we do make comparisons. Sometimes because of our preconceived perceptions, we misjudge others. It is possible for us to project our expectations upon others not realizing that the expectations are unrealistic to begin with. When we are asked: ” When will you ever become picture-perfect?? ” One truth we have to go away with is this, no one is completely flawless.

Our Wedding Vows

When we’ve said our vows to each other in marriage, in truth we are saying : ” I love you for who you are. ” & ” I will love you no matter what happens even unto death. ” Wait a minute.. ” Really.. did I make that vow? ” ” Oh gush, I don’t remember. ” Yes, we all say those vows  in church weddings, even in the courthouses. These are not words that sound good. These are our vows, or promises we’ve made to each other before our families and friends and most of all, before our Almighty God.

Did we vow to be perfect for each other? If we are aiming to be perfect one day, then we are heading the wrong direction. In reality, no one is completely flawless. However, if we are talking about giving our best to one another, being the best for each other, caring for one another in love, building the best communication system to help each other grow in all aspects of  life, these are some guides to help build strong and healthy families and relationships. A good guide to keep in mind is this: Whatever you do, think about how you can give your best to your spouse, to build him/her up.  To encourage and not to tear each other down. Think about what is good, then give it to your spouse. One final thought on this:  Put your spouse first before your wants and needs. Then attends to the needs of your children. The reason is simple. If we set good example to our children how to treat one another, our children will learn and follow. If we mistreat our spouses, our children will learn to mistreat their future spouses and the history continues.

The next time some one you love ask you this question: ” When will you ever..? ” Ask them in return: ” Will you still love me even though I can never be the “perfect person” you’ve envisioned me to be? ”  “Because even when you are not the perfect person I’ve envisioned you to be, I still love you and respect you for who you are.”

Biblical Perspective

The bible says that there is none perfect other than Jesus. In Romans 3:23, it says: “ For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. “ That is why we need Jesus. The Bible says in Matthew 7:7 “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” We can ask Jesus for strength and courage to love and care for our families. I pray that this blog will become a blessing to you and your families. Have an awesome week, everyone.  God bless!

From Ours to Yours,

Eileen


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A Legacy Of Love Or Destruction?

 

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Food For Thought

One of my favorite designs from EHOP on a throw pillow has a question: “What would you leave behind for your children..” follows by: “A legacy of love or destruction?” Interestingly, this question has 2 parts to it. One attempts to examine on material inheritance, while the other, attempts to examine on abstract concepts but nonetheless real.

An article (Science Daily) 2007, reports that the life expectancy of an American reaches 78 years of age. For simplicity sake, if an average person gets married and sets up his/her family at the age of 28-30 years, an average person has about 48-50 years of influence in the lives of his/her children. Looking at these figures, if one marries before the age of 28, and is blessed with a family earlier, one has more years of influence. Now knowing that, what do we do with these 50 years we have with our children? What have we imparted into their lives thus far? Isn’t it scary, just thinking about this? This is exactly what I’m attempting to remind ourselves today..

A Wake Up Call

If we begin to realize the seriousness of our roles as parents, this question: “What would you leave behind for your children.. A legacy of love or destruction? is a good question to ask. If we spend 50 years imparting destructive behaviors to our children, then, our children grow up imparting such behaviors to their children and it goes on from generation to generation. But, if we do otherwise, teaching our children good moral principles in life, their lives would turn out different. Do we want our children to be good, positive contributors to our society?

There is a close co-relation between the upbringing of individuals and their future. Many criminals come from broken families. According to The Morning Call, the article states that 70% of criminals are from broken homes. I hope this article will become a wake up call for many families not just for United States, but worldwide. We need to think twice, three times or even more, in regards to divorcing our spouses. For whatever reasons we may have in supporting divorce, we need to know what impact our decision would have on our children.

Seek Solutions Not Destruction

If we live in an environment unhealthy for our families, then we need to leave that environment. We need to seek what’s best for our families. If our spouses are trapped in unhealthy habits, we need solutions not abandonment. If there is a lack of communication between spouses, seek a bridge to build the communication not adultery. If there is no more love between spouses, seek ways to re-kindle that love, instead of ending it through a divorce. Ultimately, let us learn to find solutions instead of destruction. In the heart of a family is love. If whatever we pursue is led by love, then we know for sure we are bounded by protection and security. If we seek to love and respect our spouses, we teach our children love by our examples. If we seek to disrespect and hurt our spouses, we teach our children destruction by our examples. If we want leave a legacy of love for our children, we need to first begin treating our spouses rightly so. Otherwise, what we leave behind is a path of destruction and there is no hope for our children to be good, positive contributors to our society. At worst, we are investing our time creating future criminals for our society. Isn’t it scary?

Challenge

We can leave behind wealth and fortune for our children. That’s great! But, wouldn’t it be even more awesome if we leave a legacy of love that they can enjoy with their children, nurtured in hope, joy and peace? Think about this!

 

From Ours to Yours,

Eileen